February 8, 2010

Stop saying “SORRY” all the time.


“Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” ~Lao Tzu

Ok, so the quote is not a direct reasoning on the title of the post, but its my party, and I`ll post randomness if I want to. I have wanted to talk about this incessant need we have to say sorry for everything all the time, for a while now. It’s something I truly despise.

Sorry is directly related to regret, and the Wikipedia definition of regret you will find here. Its quite an intense definition and the associated emotions are quite negative. What gets to me is when people say sorry for everything, all the time. For bumping into someone in a queue, for doing something the way they wanted to, but not quite the way someone else may have wanted them to. For putting an extra sugar in my coffee. For not getting an email to me in 3.4 nanoseconds. For being 3min late.

If you aren’t truly remorseful, then don’t say sorry to me. I am generally not going to take things that personally that you need to apologize to me anyway. I got over “sorry” a while ago, and I don’t use it with such vigor anymore. If I bump into you by accident, I will greet you with a “hello” rather than a “sorry”. That way I may make a friend, instead of immediately inserting negative comment into a non-existent relationship.

This is the week to stop saying sorry. Not later in the week, but NOW.

Start with the “hello” exercise. Bump into someone, by accident, say HELLO!

Do it on purpose if you want, just to say HELLO!

Who knows who you might meet….

One Comment on “Stop saying “SORRY” all the time.

Tyron Bache
February 8, 2010 at 5:00 pm

Love the call to action at the end 🙂 not related but reminds me a quote from Crash.

It’s the sense of touch. In any real city, you walk, you know? You brush past people, people bump into you. In L.A., nobody touches you. We’re always behind this metal and glass. I think we miss that touch so much, that we crash into each other, just so we can feel something.


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