February 9, 2010

Enjoy Less (not what you think)


“The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less.” – Socrates

I have had a mild obsession with Magnum White Almond for the last week. I have managed to eat one every second day, even though I am lactose intolerant and know I shouldn’t. It got me thinking about why I love this silly thing so much, and how I should go about maximising the experience whilst not passing wind 24/7. Here is my solution, and its pretty brilliant, I’d say.

I would like to chat to you about the capacity for enjoying less. Before you buff off to another site as that may offend you, note that I am not saying get rid of stuff you like. I am saying, enjoy less time wasting rubbish, and maximize the experience on the good stuff.

Is it difficult to enjoy less? No, not really, but it takes a change in mindset, which as with many such changes takes time and adaptation.

If you enjoy Magnum White Almond (drool), as I do, when confronted with a fridge of it would you also enjoy eating as much of the entire fridge as possible? I know that’s what many of us do when faced with delicious food. Eat as much of the stuff as possible, until we are so full, that we feel ill for a day afterward.

But what if you learned to enjoy just a few bites of the ice cream? And with each bite, savor the flavor, the coldness, the creaminess, the almonds wrapped in the decadence of the white chocolate?

If you love clothes, instead of buying more and more each weekend, can you learn to cull your wardrobe into a few quality, beautiful pieces that you can wear often, and enjoy more? How many of us have a cupboard full of clothes that we hardly wear? Shoes that we hardly wear?

The same applies with anything we love … including online reading and communicating (email, Twitter, Facebook, forums). We often seem obsessed with more of it. But instead, consider reading just the quality stuff, and if a blog or Twitter feed doesn’t deliver quality consistently, consider dropping it. I sat at a networking thing today where everyone was on their phones all day. I check my phone alot when I am not busy, but when something interesting is going on, skip it, just for an hour or two. Turn your phone off for a weekend, go to the beach, walk up a mountain and forget about what other people are doing, and focus on what you are doing…

Learn to love less television, movies, chatter, spending, shopping, eating out, junk food, technology, consumption, productivity. You get the idea.

When you focus on enjoying less, you focus on full enjoyment. You learn to be content with little, and when you do that, a life of happiness is at your disposal. The only limit to your happiness, then, is how much you can learn to enjoy less.

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February 10, 2010 at 2:02 pm



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